The simplest way to avoid disappointment is this.
Lower your expectations.
Raise your standards.
They sound similar.
But they point in opposite directions.
An expectation spotlights your desires.
A standard underlines your values.
Let me show you what I mean.
If you expect a clutter-free home,
you’ll cringe every time something is out of place.
But if your standard is to remove what doesn’t add value,
your home will grow calmer over time.
If you expect six-pack abs,
every workout will feel like a failure.
But if your standard is to exercise every day,
the results will follow.
If you expect a soulmate before love enters your life,
you’ll miss countless chances to be loving.
But if your standard is to be present with everyone,
love will take care of itself.
Imagine being disappointed by a calm home, a healthy body, or real love.
That disappointment is always the byproduct of expectations.
It’s simple.
Expectations try to control life.
Standards allow life to delight you.
