In this episode of The Minimalists Podcast, Joshua & Ryan discuss friends, family, acquaintances, and coworkers, and they answer the following questions:
- How do you reconcile your relationships with friends that have values and beliefs that starkly contrast with your own?
- How do you minimize the chaos caused by certain people in your life?
- How do you use breakups as catalysts for positive change?
Joshua & Ryan’s pithy, sharable, less-than-140-character answers to the lightning-round questions:
- Joshua on managing the obligations of social media and social events: “Schedule ‘you’ time before anything else, and then fill out the rest of your calendar accordingly.”
- Ryan on managing the obligations of social media and social events: “Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you a bad friend, especially when it enables you to say ‘yes’ to life’s most important things.”
- Joshua on ridiculous questions regarding friends: “Q: Does minimalism mean I have to let go of my friends? A: No, minimalism allows us to better prioritize our most important relationships.”
- Ryan on ridiculous questions regarding friends: “Q: How do I make all of my best friends become minimalists? A: You don’t make your friends do anything.”
- Joshua on determining who among our friends are true friends, as opposed to those people that are just using us: “You can be used only if you’re useful.”
- Ryan on determining who among our friends are true friends, as opposed to those people that are just using us: “You get to choose what you do with your time—not anyone else. Choose wisely.”
- Joshua on using the silent treatment to let go of former friends: “Silence speaks volumes.”
- Ryan on using the silent treatment to let go of former friends: “Don’t avoid important conversations.”
- Joshua on the differences between family, friends, and acquaintances: “Family will suffer for you; friends will support you; acquaintances will be there when it’s convenient.”
- Ryan on the differences between family, friends, and acquaintances: “I invest in people who are invested in me, regardless of whose blood they have in their veins.”
- Joshua on maintaining healthy relationships with friends who don’t share the same values: “Values are the bedrock of friendship.”
- Ryan on maintaining healthy relationships with friends who don’t share the same values: “Being friends with someone whose values don’t align with yours is possible, but it isn’t easy.”
Mentioned in This Episode
- Tour: Less Is Now
- Book: Breakup Triage
- Book: Difficult Conversations
- Book: Essential
- Book: Everything That Remains
- Book: Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life
- Essay: Lessons from the Fall
- Essay: Understanding Others
- Explore: Dunbar’s Number
- Explore: Noble Coffee
- Explore: Roxy Theater
- Explore: Viscosity Cabaret
- Hire: Mentors
- Meetup: Eventbrite
- Meetup: Meetup.com
- Meetup: Minimalist.org
- Mentor: Karl Reidner
- Newsletter: The Minimalists
- Podcast: A.J. Leon
- Podcast: Finances
- Podcast: Let’s Know Things
- Podcast: Penn Jillette
- Podcast: Rob Bell
- Recommendation: Bandit Coffee
- Recommendation: Cartel Coffee
- Recommendations: Congratulations Podcast
- Recommendation: Savage Lovecast
- Recommendation: Some Thoughts About Relationships
- Recommendation: Valuable Things
- Support: The Minimalists
- Website: Becoming Minimalist
- Website: Exile Lifestyle
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