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Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus help over 20 million people live meaningful lives with less through their website, books, podcast, and documentary. The Minimalists have been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Boston Globe, Forbes, TIME, ABC, CBS, NBC, BBC, CBC, and NPR.

Podcast 149 | Sex

In this episode of The Minimalists Podcast, Joshua & Ryan sit down with Dr. Christopher Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn, to discuss sex, couples, and nontraditional relationships, and they answer the following questions:

  • If I consider the physical characteristics I find attractive when choosing a partner, am I being intentional or shallow?
  • Should I save my sexual accoutrements for the possibility of a future relationship?
  • Is building a strong emotional base crucial for a healthy sex life?
  • How should I respond to criticisms regarding the traditional life choices of my partner and me, e.g., waiting until marriage to live together and have sex?

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Minimal Maxims

Joshua & Ryan’s pithy, shareable, less-than-140-character responses. Find more quotes from The Minimalists at

  • “Looks do matter in terms of attraction; but, in terms of long-term compatibility, values matter more.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “Figure out your non-negotiables, and then don’t negotiate.” —Dr. Christopher Ryan
  • “A strong emotional base is crucial for all relationships.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “Unquestionably, instability is the birthplace of chaos.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “A healthy sex life is different for everyone; so, in my experience, great sex happens when it’s consensual and all parties’ preferences are respected and supported.” —Ryan Nicodemus
  • “No response is often the most appropriate response.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “People who challenge your values and beliefs are not entitled to a response.” —Ryan Nicodemus
  • “Extended travel with a partner is one of the best methods for testing compatibility.” —Dr. Christopher Ryan
  • “We must be content with what we currently have in order to appreciate something better.” —Joshua Fields Millburn

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